We all have them. Some much more subtle than others, some are more critical or encompass a wider range of individuals. Regardless of what kind of person you are, certain thoughts(good or bad, right or wrong) come to mind just seeing another person, and opinions are formed. People claim they don't judge others, and ask not to be judged(or state the ever popular "Only God Can Judge me") but the reality is, the mind has already drawn conclusions about a person upon observation, let alone the first encounter, and continues to do so with every word and action observed, or even relayed by another individual.
These however, don't need to be final. The suggestion here is 'Realize the existence of initial judgments, but weigh them carefully'. In other words, don't make any permanent decisions about a person's character based entirely off of a first encounter or second hand account. This is actually something I am working to overcome; as of now, I am relatively quick to notice the unfavorable qualities of those around me, and thus reluctant to admit to their redeeming qualities.
In short: Understand that first judgments are not final judgments. Give people an appropriate chance to present their own character; and then take note of all qualities as opposed to only those you prefer or despise.
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