I'd like to share a little game I've recently begun playing.
For lack of a better name, I am calling it 'Plus One'. It's very similar to the idea of 'Paying it Forward.' The rules are quite simple:
Every day, perform one act of kindness for another person. The person in question must not be a friend or family member; it must be a complete stranger or someone with whom there is no significant relationship, IE an acquaintance or friend of a friend at most.
Invalid recipients: Friends, spouses, children, parents, significant others/family of friends.(The idea here is that there is no personal benefit to be gained.)
The act of kindness must clearly demonstrate some assistance or benefit for the person receiving it.
Invalid move: Offering someone assistance. The act of offering help is not enough on its own; an action of helping must accompany it.
The act of kindness may not be an act arguably expected of members of society.
Invalid move: Holding a door open for someone.(In polite society, holding a door for strangers entering/exiting a building around the same time as oneself is considered etiquette, and therefore does not qualify for the purpose of this exercise.)
The act of kindness may not be part of or associated with an exchange in which the giver receives something as 'payment' for kindness.
Invalid move: asking for favors in return for kind deed. If one is asking for payment, that defeats the purpose of performing kind deeds.
Exception: Asking the favor of 'paying it forward', IE, performing an act of kindness for another individual(again, with whom one is not associated.)
On subsequent days, the receiver of help cannot be the same individual(find others to help) unless the acts of kindness increase in number or magnitude.
The act of kindness may not be part of one's ordinary routine or responsibility.
Invalid move: Providing extra napkins or sauces to customers as a food service worker
Exception: Performing acts of one's traditional routine or responsibility in situations where one is not obligated to do so.
Valid move: As a food service worker, delaying breaks or staying after shift to provide services to customers.
Penalties:
The object of the exercise is to put positive thoughts and feelings into the world in order to change perceptions and encourage selflessness. Actions that inhibit this process are frowned upon.
A person may not perform an act that harms or provides a reasonably high chance of causing harm to another person. Hurting others adds negativity, and that negativity must then be rectified. For 'scoring' purposes, such acts cancel out one act of kindness.
A person may not ask for favors. To ask for favors is to draw upon the positive thoughts or actions of others for personal gain. Doing so may not be selfish in intent, but still counts against the contribution of positive feelings to the world. As such, receiving an act of kindness mandates that one must then perform another act of kindness(not necessarily to the giver) in order to qualify their 'Plus One' for the day.
A person may not receive favors without following suit. As with the above limitation, even unasked for favors represent one's own benefit without any cost of self or contribution to the common goal. As such, a person who receives kindness, especially when they did not ask for it, must provide additional acts of kindness to others(spread the wealth) at a 2:1 ratio, or performing two acts of kindness for every one act of kindness received.
At the end of the day, the objective is to end with a positive score, the minimum of which is '1'. However, it is encouraged to go further, than 'Plus One', perhaps challenging two acts of kindness, or a gradually increasing number.
Just another thought toward tolerance and acceptance, changing hearts, changing minds.
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